April 9, 2017

How Words can Create or Destroy



“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”—Proverbs 18:21 (NIV)

Have you ever thought about that scripture? Really thought about it? It confirms that our communication is more important and powerful than many of us know. Everyday life and the Bible tell us so.

Words are weapons for good or evil.

I doubt there is one person who can say they have never spoken or heard negativity. (Let’s be realistic; even fairy tales deal with emotional darkness.) Some may wonder if pessimism is a problem. The answer is an emphatic “Yes!!!”

The effects of callous conversation might not be immediately obvious. The scars may be hidden, but they’re still real. Deep mental wounds can be as traumatizing as physical ones. Just ask anyone who’s been harassed, abused, or bullied.

TobyMac’s “Speak Life”

This singer put together an uplifting song. It simply, but effectively, shows the consequences of harshness. Please enjoy the video, which is well worth your time:



My Conclusion

“…no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse those who are made in the likeness of God.”—James 5:7-8
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“I tell you, on the day of judgment, people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”—Matthew 12:26-27
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“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”—Ephesians 4:29

Life presents many difficulties. Some personalities particularly struggle with frustration. It’s easy to lash out unthinkingly in anger when we’re going through trauma. However, there will probably be unhappy consequences.

If I have to choose between keeping a relationship thriving and temporarily venting my negative feelings, I will choose the latter.  I focus on long-term goals.

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For more on the importance of compassionate communication, please click here to see my book, Accept No Trash Talk: Overcoming the Odds.

Do you choose life or death with your words?