May 19, 2015

Top Reasons--Understand Before you Judge

Numerous people are quick to pass judgment with little knowledge.  For instance, they base their conclusions on outer appearances only:
  • A girl doesn’t dress in the height of fashion. 
  • Someone has physical or mental limitations. 
  • An elderly man doesn’t think or act as quickly as we do. 
  • A colleague is a member of a different religion. 
  • Some students come to school hungry and tired.
Yet, if we probe the depths of these unique people, we will find they have the same wants, needs, and rights as the rest of us. They deserve respect. They deserve understanding. We need to open our minds and eyes to the fact that, deep down, we’re all the same.


She’s an unbelievably caring mother who gives all of her time and energy to her kids. She has no time left over for herself. She doesn’t read, or exercise. Her youngest child, especially, demands her attention almost constantly.

Some might criticize Janet for not doing her best to look glamorous and beautiful. But, she is gorgeous on the inside. She has chosen different priorities. Janet’s main calling in life is “mother”, not “model”.


She is another friend who is struggling with being a single parent of young children. Certain individuals may comment about her youngest son, who is loud and pretty much out of control. Some may label Evelyn as being an inadequate mother. “She should be able to control him”, they may think to themselves.

I have seen her son with other caregivers. Nobody can manage him. He will not sit still, or keep quiet, for five minutes. Evelyn does her best; but, she has other children to think of as well.

This hard-working single mom may get labeled as “ineffective”. Yet, she is doing the best she can under trying circumstances. As a fellow mother, I am well aware numerous kids do not act as we wish. Sometimes, we just have to say, “It is what it is” and let go.


I’m aware of a variety of people on this site that lead a severely restricted life due to medical concerns. These survivors are dealing with past and present trauma, such as cancer.  A few of them cannot even leave their hospital beds. Should we criticize them because they are unable to lead fulfilling lives? Is it their fault they cannot do more?

Gulrukh Tausif

I found this inspirational blogger on Google+. She wrote a moving piece about a young boy called Ali Noor. He was bullied daily at school because he had obvious physical limitations. Ali appeared to be weaker and smaller than the rest of the students. However, the school finally learned the reason why Ali was crippled.

Students and teachers alike cried when they found out the truth about this pint-sized hero. Needless to say, the bullying stopped. I guarantee this post will tug at your heartstrings, too. It’s well worth the three-minute read.

My Conclusion


  1. Replies
    1. Hi, Mary. I thank you kindly for taking the time to read--and for your compliments!

  2. Thank you for sharing this!

    1. Hi, Brenda Lee. I thank you for reading and commenting. It means so much to me!

  3. Wise words! I really think you should be talking to school aged kids. They would benefit from your wisdom.

    1. Thanks, Rosanne! You are such a consistent, huge cheering section for me! As my health, and my self-image, improve, I'll have to look into talking to schools.

  4. Thank you for writing about this. It has been something that I have been thinking about a lot myself these days :)

    1. Thanks, Jeremy Crow. I think we live in a time of too much fear and hate, which promotes unfair judgement. So, you aren't alone in pondering this subject. It's always on my mind!