May 19, 2016

Top Strategies for Battling Negativity


“I don’t see how this will ever end. Nothing has changed so far.”

“I really don’t know how I can get through another day. I just don’t.”

“I’ve been searching for a solution for years. I don’t know where else to turn.”

“Maybe I’m not worthy of a better life. I should just give up now before the situation deteriorates further.”

“Nobody understands my pain.”

Some of us are crippled (I do mean mentally “crippled”) by depression, or even temporary setbacks. We are familiar with such destructive self-talk. We think nothing of it because we’re used to it. However, those outside of the loop of overpowering negativity cannot comprehend the absolute compulsion to dwell on the dark side of our circumstances.

Ben Amos

I wrote an earlier blog post about this author, minister, and public speaker. Please listen to his amazing radio interview with Carol Graham here.  He was run over by a drunk driver at the age of two. He lost a lung, spleen, and two ribs. The entire right side of his body was pretty mangled. Here are the results of the accidents:
  • Numerous surgeries
  • Brain damage (to the point where he had seizures)
  • Crushed reproductive system
  • Bullying
  • Stunted height for four years
  • A prognosis of not living beyond the age of five
  • Major depression
  • Suicide attempts

What did this unstoppable man do? He refused to believe any of the negative reports. He pushed past supposed limitations to a life of victory. He’s still alive at almost 50 years old. He has four children. Ben has also been active in the arts and sports since an early age.

How do we win Against Pessimism?

There is always something to worry about: politics, the cruelty of men to other men, and the many injustices in life. Most of us can truthfully say that we are not where we expected to be at this point in our lives.

I’m familiar with physical and mental limitations. I have been bullied. I know what it is to live in overpowering darkness. I comprehend the constant fight to grab onto some speck of light with all my power. What can Ben Amos teach people in my situation?

Our internal dialogue is what we believe the most, no matter how supportive others may be. If our self-talk is negative, we must change it. Others can build you up, but if you don’t believe it, it does no good.

Our most powerful tool is our mind. That’s why we have to believe for specific victories, including salvation.

Everything we are is wrapped up in how we think and speak. What we think about determines who we are:  “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.”—Proverbs 23:7 (KJV) Our thoughts are who we become.

Thoughts come from an outside source to either help us or destroy us. We can’t let them just go where they want; we have to control them with checks and balances.

From an unknown source: “When you buy the thought, you buy the lie.”

Specific Strategies

Put dark thoughts in jail, where they belong. We must displace negative thoughts by replacing them with positive ones. In other words, it’s not enough to stop dwelling on pessimism; we must actively replace dark thoughts with happy ones. That’s because negative thoughts are three times more powerful than positive ones.

Meditate on good thoughts. Savor them like a cow chewing the cud. Think about the positivity. Speak it out. Go over it again and again.

Visualize. See yourself as being whole, not broken. (This is my addition…) You can even put positive affirmations or pictures in highly visible places.

My Conclusion

The mind is a powerful, powerful tool. It can propel us to amazing victories or keep us mired in a pit of overwhelming defeat. Only we can choose which direction it goes: up or down; it’s that simple.

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